Creating Family

Creating Family 

Matt Stinton

Family defines us 

- Family can be messy.

What makes family, a family is that we always come back together again

- Even if you don’t talk to your family you are of the same blood. There is no way to change that. In a family we do not control one another, we honor each other. Control crushes growth.
- We need tools to handle the messes we make in "family".
- Family means you love people through their messes. Sometimes you as a worship pastor will have to take people off the team but still love them as "family" as they clean up their mess.
- Encourage openness in your team. (Look up Danny Silk’s message “Un-punishable.” For more in-depth teaching on how to honor people that you need to draw boundaries with.)
- Bonding is a huge part of a family. History off-stage is what makes things on stage go smoothly. Bonding creates covering within your team.
- Healthy soil creates healthy plants. When you grow and the healthier you get the more people’s issues are going to come up because you can’t take those issues where the Lord wants to take you.
- Never accuse, always ask questions.
- Have a grid for the gifts each team member brings. We use the Fivefold ministry model.
- To follow our families vision we need each person’s gift.

Three Levels of connection:
1. Who is pouring into you?
2. Who is your David or Jonathan?
3. Who are you pouring into?

People who resist someone pouring into them may struggle with authority because of past woundings.

Let’s value council, let’s value inner healing. In family, we are safe to become whole.